Balance permeates our lives: we have darkness so we can appreciate light; we have bad so we can appreciate good. But balance is also how we live. And it is sometimes very difficult to attain balance in what we choose.

We are not just a physical presence in this world. We are mind, body, and spirit. It’s important to keep all three in balance. If we focus on strengthening only the body, our minds and spirits will suffer. Focusing only on one or two of these will make the other(s) wither.

There are many ways to keep our bodies and minds active, and it seems we all manage to keep those two going. But what about spirit? What is it and how do we keep it strong?

I am no expert; I can only say what I have learned in my years on this earth. To me, spirit is the very essence of who we are. It is what makes us human. When we neglect our spirit, our body and mind can go downhill quickly.  Spirit is a tricky thing, and easy to ignore. We can eat healthy food, stay hydrated, keep our minds active, and yet neglect the spirit.

Where to begin? I try to take time each day to reflect on what I want to accomplish, on what I will do to reach my goal(s) for the day. Some days, one goal is all I can handle! It’s important to have time to yourself, even if it’s only a few minutes. Each of us must decide for ourselves what we need to do to recharge. For me, it’s being in Nature.

I find being outside peaceful and healing. It’s a few minutes without distractions; a few minutes to observe how the ants follow a certain trail; how a hawk flaps its wings to stay in the thermals to soar and conserve energy; or how the ground squirrel pokes her head out of her hole to see if all is clear; to stay still and watch the geckos chirp and chase the bugs that gather around the light on the back porch. It is in these quiet moments that I discovered that geckos have voices, that ground squirrels have a vocabulary of calls, that hummingbirds are really quite noisy!

Some days, I hear my mind going constantly; it’s hard to turn it off. Being in Nature helps me to focus on what’s important to me. There is a beauty in Nature if we take the time to see it.


I have started and discarded several blog posts this week but have been unable to complete one; my thoughts are still too scattered after last Saturday’s shocks. So I will merely say that I hope all of you tell your family and friends how much they mean to you now. And let us also remember the families of those killed and injured, as well as the family of the shooter. I can’t imagine the pain and shock all of those families are feeling right now. And let us also think about what we say before we say it; words can hurt and anger others when they are thoughtlessly thrown out. In other words, be sure your brain is engaged before you put your mouth in gear.



Do you compare yourself to other people? Do you wistfully gaze at the perfect body and wish it were yours? Do you envy people with curly/straight/thick/long/short hair and wish yours looked like that? Do you pine for the job your neighbor has because of the pay/perks/travel? I think all of us want what we don’t have, but it’s time we appreciated ourselves and what we do have. Each one of us is unique. We each have our own set of physical attributes and talents, and nobody else in the whole world has the exact same set of attributes we have. There is probably someone out there who is envying you and what you have.

It has taken me a long time to be at peace with who I am and with my own set of unique traits and abilities. I still sometimes catch myself admiring someone else and starting to wish I was like that, but then I remember that no matter what someone else may have that I don’t, I have a lot to be thankful for, and I know there are people who appreciate my talents because they have told me.

So today, instead of wishing for what others have, tell them what it is that you admire about them. Be content with who and what you are; and if there are things you don’t like about yourself, either change them or accept them.