There are no do-overs in this life. What is in the past is done. But it is hard to leave it there. Decisions we have made long ago can still haunt us; and we may still be feeling the repercussions today. We don’t have to live in the past. It can sometimes be useful to remember things that happened; but to dwell on them is counter-productive. So how can we get out of the cycle of living in the past?

Live today as today. We only have one chance to make today count. Once today is gone, it can never be recaptured. To try to hold on to today is futile. We can only live today to the best of our ability and go forward from here. This isn’t to say that we can’t plan for the future. We can. It’s important to be flexible, though. Setting small goals is much more manageable than setting some grandiose goal for some point in the future and than getting frustrated because it isn’t getting here fast enough.

So even though there are no do-overs, we can still live from today forward. Was today a total bust? Start again tomorrow. We can’t go back and change the past, but we can resolve to do better in the future, one day at a time.