When things go wrong

We are human. When something goes wrong, it isn’t long before a whole series of things starts going wrong. Why? Much of it has to do with our mindset. It is so easy to berate ourselves for doing something wrong, and when we focus on what we did wrong, we start to think we can do nothing right. Once we start down that path, more and more things go awry. We get in the habit of doing the same things and expecting to not get it right. Before we know it, we have set ourselves up for failure before even beginning something because we believe we can’t do anything right. Sometimes we fail because we take to heart other peoples’ criticism of us; we give more weight to someone else’s opinions than we do our own. Living your life by someone else’s expectations won’t work. It is only a matter of time before we become unhappy and angry because we are not living the life we are meant to live.

It isn’t easy to break this cycle, but it can be done. We have to tell ourselves that others can’t possibly know us as well as we know ourselves. We have to tell ourselves that we are capable of getting it right. We have to tell ourselves that we are strong, and intelligent, and capable of great things, if we will just allow ourselves to ignore the naysayers. Some people take great delight in smashing dreams; ignore them – they are usually unhappy people who can’t bear to see others succeed. Don’t listen to them; listen to your heart. Let your heart overrule your head; listen to that still, small voice that tells you what you are capable of accomplishing.

We may not always succeed, but failure just tells us to try another way. Giving in to failure tells us we are not worthy. That little voice, our intuition, is almost always right. I have learned this the hard way. Whenever I have listened to that voice, things work out well; whenever I have ignored it, things didn’t work out so well. Too often we make decisions out of fear; those kinds of decisions aren’t good for us. Fear can be conquered by doing that which we fear the most.

Trust your instincts.

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4 thoughts on “When things go wrong

  1. What a nicely written, thoughtful post. Long ago I worked as a secretary, and I agonized over any typo that got past me. One boss told me this: If you're working, you're going to make mistakes. The only way to avoid mistakes is to do nothing. No thanks! I'd rather put myself out there and GO FOR IT than do nothing and make no mistakes.

  2. Thanks for the comment, Sandy. Yes, I used to be a perfectionist!! I still have high standards for myself, but perfection isn't the standard any more.

  3. Wonderful thoughts! It reminds me of a story a psychologist I worked with told me. She was getting ready to take her twin girls to a swimming party. She knew she'd have to get in the pool too, and she wasn't thrilled about how she looked in a bathing suit. Well, her daughter noticed that she was looking at herself critically in the mirror. The six-year old said, "It's OK if you're fat, Mommy." That comment turned her view of herself around. She thought, I am what I am. And she enjoyed the pool party more than she imagined possible in a bathing suit.

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